Friday, March 27, 2009

The Way My Mind Works

I've been having a conversation with a friend of mine and I've come to the realization that not everybody has an internal dialogue like I have.

We were discussing how she could come up with ideas for her blog in relation to her business that she is starting on Etsy (On Gossamer Wings). She makes fairy wings for costumes, and they are really quite amazing. I was recommending that she come up with a background story and personality profile for each of the "faeries" that would wear the particular set of wings. See, I do that when I'm making a quilt. I have the conversation in my head of how I would give the quilt to a person and their reaction and then how it becomes an heirloom and is passed down through the family, etc. etc. So, when I asked her what she thinks about when she is creating her artwork, she told me she thinks about the next design. She sees things in shapes and colors and I see things in words.

It never dawned on me that not everybody thinks in words, and I realize that is very small-minded of me because now that I think about that, how do people who can't read think of things....

Well, that led us to talk about other things that we do while we are in our creative mode and we both admit that we will put movies on that we are very familiar with so that we can follow along with the dialogue without actually watching the moving pictures. And I commented that that worked fine for me until I tried to listen to "Castaway" and it was very tough to not stop and watch the movie because there isn't a whole lot of dialogue.

And that brought us back to the fact that I will have full conversations and arguments in my head with friends and family and they will never even know that I was mad at them because I worked it all out. And I have come to the conclusion that this is why when I broke up with my last boyfriend it came as such a shock to him because I had already argued out all the points and explained to him why I wasn't happy...I just did it in my own head and not actually with him.

Ah well, I guess someday I'll have to stop living so much in my head...even though for the most part it is my happy place.

4 comments:

Queen B said...

LOL about the breakup.

I totally talk to myself and am always letting my mind wander down those paths.

I miss you! Need to have more conversations with each other :)

Does the fact that I've been doing 2 jobs for 3 weeks now excuse the excessive talking to myself? Maybe it's just one job role talking to the other? :)

Paula said...

I talk to myself all the time too! Scary part is when I find myself talking OUTLOUD!!

Agent DragonFly said...

LOL!!I usually talk (or mumble aloud) and answer myself....especially when I am busy.....trying to remain focused.....but in general I am a fan of the internal monolgue....that does not always stay internal

Andrea said...

Mostly, I yell at other people in my head. (!)